But what if I just stopped being the kind of person who was upset by this????

There's a significant gap between understanding why I do some of the stupid shit that I do, and actually being able to do something about it.

For instance: I tend to avoid talking about relationship issues with Trish because I've convinced myself that if I can just try harder I can change myself into a person for whom these things are not a problem.

This........ is not a good strategy.