The tribulations of the mostly gay.

[grrltastic]

 Since I've been in a relationship with Trish for most of my time in Oregon, folks here tend to classify me as "lesbian". This is fine for the most part - it doesn't really affect anything. Every once in a while, though, I'll be involved in a discussion about dating or men or whatever, and have my opinion dismissed with "What would you know/care about this? You're gay." 

Which is aggravating, but I never really know how to react? Mostly I just raise a skeptical eyebrow and let the conversation continue. But, y'all, I KNOW what an attractive man is because I have slept with A LOT OF THEM. I was married to a dude! I understand relationships with men! Just because I prefer to be with women, and am currently with a woman doesn't completely erase the fact that I was WITH MEN IN THE PAST.

People, ugh.

But I don't really care to get involved in discussions about my very personal grey areas in public, so I guess the eyebrow of skepticism will prevail.

Comments

[waketosleep]

Roomie also has problems with people not understanding what 'bisexual' means. Funny how it still happens even in a place where people are so purportedly sexually liberal.

[switterbeet]

Obs even if you were completely homo you are still entitled to opinions on boythings/heterorelationshipstherewith.

GUH PEOPLE.

I feel this invisibility from the other direction (have mostly been with men, but am more gay-inclined).